Your beard is looking great! Your mustache/connector/goatee area is very reminiscent of Azio's - very strong and well-defined, so I encourage you to take a look at his thread.

I can't encourage you enough to follow Oly's advice about the mustache. I was having the same problem as you until I finally just let it grow, dealt with chewing hair and getting my bottom lip poked to all hell for a couple of weeks, and then, finally, having it long enough to keep brushed to the side. Keep the faith, it really does work (well, for most of us, that is).

Having your wife on board is fantastic! It's more than half the battle.

Cheers!
Tom


Some helpful links:
Library Central of Beard Growing


Taming the Wild Mustache
Tips for eating and drinking with a big mustache

Excess on occasion is exhilarating. It prevents moderation from acquiring the deadening effect of a habit. ~ W. Somerset Maugham
A jerk with a beard is just a bearded jerk, but a bearded gentleman is awesomeness personified. ~ Triibeard