Aya, mate Let it grow! It took me years to realise that a monthly only visit to a reliable barber will do the trick. Being arthritic I cannot trust my own trimming skills, or the lack of thereof, ha, ha... Almost a year before I found a barber, strangely enough, a female one, who does know how to trim a beard. Never mind upon the comments of your g/f. It is your face and beard, after all. MO1